True Friendship Myth or Reality? What does It Mean?

What is a “True Friend?”

After having several encounters which were extremely hurtful for me with various friends and loved ones over the past couple of weeks, I sat down and asked myself and then the Chat GPT the question and received these answers.

Then, I thought some more and wrote my thoughts.

Here’s the result of that endeavor.

What is a “True Friend?”

That’s a deceptively simple question. Philosophers, psychologists, and spiritual traditions have wrestled with it for thousands of years, but there are a few qualities that consistently appear.

True friendship is a relationship built on mutual trust, respect, care, and the freedom to be authentically yourself without fear of losing the other person’s regard.

A true friend:

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Accepts you as you are while encouraging you to become your best self.

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Celebrates your joys without jealousy.

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Stands beside you in hardship, not only when life is easy.

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Speaks the truth with kindness, even when it’s uncomfortable.

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Listens to understand, not merely to reply.

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Respects your boundaries, beliefs, and differences, even when they disagree.

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Offers forgiveness when mistakes are made and is willing to seek forgiveness when they cause hurt.

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Keeps your confidence and treats your vulnerability as a gift, not a weapon.

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Chooses the relationship repeatedly, knowing that friendships require effort from both people.

One of the oldest definitions comes from Aristotle, who described the highest form of friendship as one based on virtue. Each friend wishes the good of the other for the other’s own sake—not because of what they gain from the relationship.

It’s also important to recognize what true friendship is not:

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It is not agreeing on everything.

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It is not never hurting each other. Even the best friends sometimes misunderstand one another.

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It is not keeping score.

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It is not expecting one person to meet every emotional need.

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It is not requiring someone to abandon their own values or identity.

Perhaps the simplest definition is this:

A true friend is someone with whom you can safely be yourself, knowing that your honesty will be met with respect, your failures with compassion, your successes with joy, and your heart with care.

That doesn’t mean every friendship lasts forever. Sometimes people who were true friends grow in different directions. Sometimes circumstances change. The measure of a friendship is not always its length, but the sincerity, mutual care, and integrity that existed within it while it lasted.

After reading this which I got from Chat GPT, I sat down and took a good long look at myself.

There are a few of these I’ve checked so that I can look within and ask myself –

1. Am I being the type of friend to others I expect them to be to me?
2. Am I willing to except others exactly where they are and –
3. Am I looking in the right places for “friendship?
4. What can I do to improve myself so that I’m a better friend to others and-
5. How can I become the type of person who can truly give unconditional love without needing anything at all?

I thought that would be easy. It felt beautiful and freeing. But the problem with that is sometimes my tank runs completely dry and there appears to no longer be a filling station.

Why do you think this is?

I think it’s because these days everyone is so wrapped up in what’s directly in their own little bubble, they’re no longer willing to reach outside their comfort zones.

This, of course, includes me.

Or at least it did.

Now, I’m working as hard as possible not to expect more from others than they’re either able or willing to give, and to determine whether it’s a lack of inability, or unwillingness and what to do when I discover those answers. I want to become a better person, to look deep within for reserves and to be able to go further along that extra mile with those I love.

Now, love. There’s another word which has multiple meanings and degrees.

Come back again for more on Love later.

For now, I hope you found this piece thought-provoking and that you’ll share your thoughts.

Remember, honesty is best, but also remember, in a world where you can be anything, be kind. (Doctor Suess)

Think, before you respond and ask yourself, “If I put my heart into writing something I felt had great value how would I feel if I got this response?”

I don’t ask anyone agree. Just think about it.

Patty L. Fletcher – Author and Content Promoter.

About Patty L. Fletcher

Updated November 2024

Patty L. Fletcher is a woman of passion and exploration.

She studies the art of manifestation and is a seeker of knowledge and the wisdom to know what to do with it when it’s learned.

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If you have made mistakes, even serious mistakes, you may have a fresh start from any moment you choose, for this thing we call ‘failure’ is not the falling down, but the staying down.

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