Marriage Penalty

Marriage Penalty


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I’d like to say a Huge Thank You! to, Published Author, Robert Branco for his Continuous Hard Work on this Issue.

Hi, Everyone,

Below is correspondence from Renee Wood regarding the marriage penalty. She gets it. I know that some of you are not Catholic. Even so, I’m sure you will appreciate the empathy that comes through loud and clear in her message to me. This is what I’ve been waiting for. I would like to publicly thank Dennis Polselli for putting me in touch with the organization that Renee represents.

Bob  Branco

Website plus contact information:


Subject: Marriage Penalty

Hi Bob,

Jan Benton from NCPD gave me your contact info and expressed your concern over losing government benefits when choosing to express your love through the Sacrament of Marriage.  I have personally been through this difficult dilemma. The State places people with disabilities in – live together in sin with the one you love and keep vital benefits or sacrifice vital benefits than choose the Sacrament of Marriage.  We, persons with disabilities, don’t get much guidance from the church in what to do in such a heart-wrenching decision.  I chose to forfeit all government benefits and publicly marry in the Catholic Church.  We have suffered more than most realize for that decision, but we have a beautiful marriage and make it work.  However, I do realize that even though it is a struggle at times, my husband has more resources than many in our circumstance, without which, would have made marriage impossible.  Since the State puts people with disabilities in a place of choosing between their religious beliefs and life sustaining government supports, I don’t judge people’s choice.

I have written, presented and am looked to as a sort of “expert” in my State on this subject.  I don’t know your personal circumstance such as whether you’re both disabled and receiving benefits (the best scenario for keeping most benefits actually), or if your future spouse is gainfully employed above poverty level (the worst scenario for keeping any benefits), so I am sending you the blog I’ve written and my power point presentation which explains what benefits are lost under different financial circumstances.  If you have specific questions after reviewing these, I’d be happy to answer them.

Although the material here speaks to the moral dilemmas, it is written for a secular legislative audience to help them understand and change the law.  The Church doesn’t say much on this moral dilemma imposed by the State specifically on persons with disabilities who require lots of care, but who have the cognizant ability to consent to Marriage, so it’s difficult to know if the Church would see this as overwhelming oppression of people with disabilities religious freedoms by the State, and if so, what would be the Pastoral thing to do in these impossible circumstances?  I don’t know the answer, but I think it deserves the Church’s reflection and guidance.

My blog;

God Bless and good luck on your journey. 


Renee Wood
509 Thad St.
Toledo Ohio 43609
PH: 419-724-9070


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