A Realist’s Musing on Valentines Day #Journal

FEBRUARY 14, 2021: VALENTINES DAY

MOON WAXING CRESCENT.

“Today is Valentines Day. Oh, poor, poor pitiful me. I have no one with which to be.”

If I read that kind of attitude one more time, I may be sick.

So many people have far too high expectations concerning Valentines Day. They have no idea what true romance is and furthermore most haven’t one blinking clue of the history surrounding the day.

I, however, have a totally different perspective on the day.

*WARNING IF EASILY OFFENDED STOP! READING! *

I took this day and made it a day of checking in with loved ones and wishing them a joyous loving day. I also took some time for me and some self-care since I’m always running at top-speed all the week through.

I’ve had a lovely day and I also enjoyed reading the truth of the day and its history.

Most however cannot do that because they’re all stuck on not having a significant other to spend it with.

To my mind, they might look at that poor, poor pitiful me attitude and ask themselves if that needy way of behavior might not be keeping them from having someone.

Today, holds a few pleasant and a few more not so pleasant memories for me. For a moment or two, I was nearly lost to the not so pleasant of memories. Then I took hold of myself. I counted my many blessings. I thought about how wonderful things are for me now verses how they were only one year ago and when I did that along with spreading love to both my friends and family as well as giving some to myself, there was nothing to do but enjoy the day.

We can choose to bemoan that which we don’t have and which we can’t do, or we can reach out and grab hold of that which we have and can do and create something amazing.

Happiness is a choice. Love is ever present, and it is our own fault if we don’t find it.

Some think me harsh. I say that’s not so. I’m a realist. I’ve had and made many choices in my life and each choice I made has led me to this point.

Our good and kind creator gives us a path to walk. We’re given plenty of direction along the way. But we’re also given free will and so if we but look at our lives in an honest and open way we shall see that which we’ve done, and we will then understand why we are where we are.

Do you want a significant other? If so why? Furthermore, why don’t you have one? Have you ever thought that that which you’re doing might be keeping you from having one?

Have you had relationships in the past which didn’t turn out in the end as you wished? Why? I read just today, “When a couple quarrels, they’re both at fault. Then, when one is gone, the responsibility of the other is all too real.”

That’s some heavy food for thought but it’s also quite true.

There are two sides to each story. It takes two to make a relationship and two to break it.

If for instants you find yourself in an abusive relationship as I did, you must break free, but you must also ask yourself how and why you ended up in that hot mess in the first place because I promise you my friend, some of the blame most assuredly does lie with you.

I truly wish everyone would stop the madness and find the reality of their lives. Why? Because it would make the world a much happier place to be.

Just my Valentines Day musings as I end what has for me been a gloriously happy day.

May you see and enjoy the love which surrounds you.

May Harmony find you, and blessid may you be.

Patty L. Fletcher

Self-Published Author and Social Media Promotional Assistant

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About Patty L. Fletcher

Patty L. Fletcher lives in Kingsport Tennessee where she works full time as a Writer with the goal of bridging the great chasm which separates the disAbled from the non-disAbled. And as a Social Media Promotional Assistant. She is the owner and creator of Tell-It-To-The-World Marketing (Author, Blogger Business Assist), and is the published author of two books, Campbell’s Rambles: How a Seeing Eye Dog Retrieved My Life and Bubba Tails From the Puppy Nursery At The Seeing Eye: Volume One. She can also be found in two anthologies which are, December Awethology Light And A Treasure Chest of Children’s Tales. See her latest book, Pathway to Freedom Broken and Healed: How a Seeing Eye Dog Retrieved My Life Second Edition in eBook and Paperback at: https://www.amazon.com/Patty-L.-Fletcher/e/B00Q9I7RWG Find it in various accessible formats: https://www.smashwords.com/profile/view/PattyFletcher See her Facebook business page: https://www.facebook.com/tellittotheworld/ Patty loves receiving feedback about her work. So, drop her a line any time at: patty.volunteer1@gmail.com
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6 Responses to A Realist’s Musing on Valentines Day #Journal

  1. pujakins says:

    Good one, cheers!

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  2. As a single mom, I can agree with what you’ve said. I spent today focused on sending love to all my friends. I also spent time with my parents and my son. At no point did I feel sad and pitiful. Today is about giving love. So long as I can spread love and kindness, I’m happy. 🙂

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  3. joanmyles says:

    Yes, my dear, dear Patty. Love is all around each of us if we acknowledge what it is and is not, if we embrace and enhance it with all our heart, thank you for your proof of this. Love you!

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