A Friendship Gone Bye by author Trish Hubschman #AuthorsThey’reOnlyHuman

A Friendship Gone Bye

By Trish Hubschman

November 2020 

I graduated high school in 1982. I spent the next two years at community college. After I finished there, I surprised everyone by being accepted at one of the top schools in New York state, the University at Albany. The dorm I was in was designated for Freshmen and disabled students.

Making friends was never easy for me, but when I had one, I cherished them. Deidra was my closest friend at SUNY Albany. She lived in the same dorm, on the second floor. Deidra was a black girl from Long Island. She was the best. We’d sit in her small room and talk and talk and talk about everything, including boys and sex.

The second semester came and we were still best friends.  We were talking. Deidra told me her grades the first semester were very good. She was going to try to get into an all-black sorority on campus.

She was so excited. She said this sorority was important. I was excited for her too.

Then came the catch.  “If I get in,” she said. “You and I won’t be able to be friends anymore.”

I didn’t understand. “Why not?” I asked.

“Because one of the sorority’s big rules is that the girls can’t talk to white people,” she replied.

It took me some time to absorb that. Why would a sorority do that? It sounded silly. Why would anyone want to be in a sorority that tells them they can’t be friends with someone? This hurt? “If that’s what you want,” I said.

“It’s what has to be,” she replied. “You’ll still see me. I’ll be wearing a white or red beret. That’s so people know us and we know each other.”

I nodded. My heart was breaking. “I understand,” I whispered. I reached out and threw my arms around her. She hugged me back.

“Wish me luck?” she said. I did, then got up and left her room.

She got into the sorority. She didn’t tell me. I saw her walking around the dorm with a beret on her head. She said nothing to me. I said nothing to her. I respected her wishes and kept my distance. I didn’t want her to be thrown out of the sorority because of me.

I think every black girl on campus was in that sorority. They all wore white or red berets. I lost a wonderful friend because I’m white and I never, in my life, noticed the difference between black and white

I left SUNY Albany in May for good. I never saw or spoke to Deidra again.

Author Bio

Trish is the creator of the Tracy Gayle mystery series, Tidalwave, Stiff Competition and Ratings Game. She also writes short stories, poetry, creative non-fiction and articles. She is a graduate of Long Island University’s Southampton Campus and has a bachelor’s degree in English-Writing. She lives with her husband, Kevin, and dog, henry, in Northeast Pennsylvania. Her website is  https://www.dldbooks.com/Hubschman/

*Editor’s Note*

This offering was originally published at:  https://www.recoveringself.com/society-and-culture/a-friendship-gone-bye

About Patty L. Fletcher

Patty L. Fletcher lives in Kingsport Tennessee where she works full time as a Writer with the goal of bridging the great chasm which separates the disAbled from the non-disAbled. And as a Social Media Promotional Assistant. She is the owner and creator of Tell-It-To-The-World Marketing (Author, Blogger Business Assist), and is the published author of two books, Campbell’s Rambles: How a Seeing Eye Dog Retrieved My Life and Bubba Tails From the Puppy Nursery At The Seeing Eye: Volume One. She can also be found in two anthologies which are, December Awethology Light And A Treasure Chest of Children’s Tales. See her latest book, Pathway to Freedom Broken and Healed: How a Seeing Eye Dog Retrieved My Life Second Edition in eBook and Paperback at: https://www.amazon.com/Patty-L.-Fletcher/e/B00Q9I7RWG Find it in various accessible formats: https://www.smashwords.com/profile/view/PattyFletcher See her Facebook business page: https://www.facebook.com/tellittotheworld/ Patty loves receiving feedback about her work. So, drop her a line any time at: patty.volunteer1@gmail.com
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2 Responses to A Friendship Gone Bye by author Trish Hubschman #AuthorsThey’reOnlyHuman

  1. trish says:

    I was 20 years old and very hurt by this. I think I was jealus because I couldn’t get into this sorority

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